I am was really incredibly surprised, giggly and blushing when I saw that Jimmy Moore gave me immense cred on his blog yesterday (Jamie VanEaton A New Low-Carb Superstar In The Making) (I think he forgot to add…of Oopsies) (*nods knowingly*).
I think it’s exciting, but I’m just me, all normal and with bad breath in the morning, so I am a little bit embarrassed about the attention, but appreciate my friends for their support.
This morning (d’oh! Now it is noon) I hope to dispel some concerns I’ve been receiving from friends concerning the future and what is taking place. The following are some general questions, and are in no way to pick on anyone. I want to make things clear from the start, so there’s no confusion.
I think it is very generous that people so care about the image of low-carb and about my well-being that they would be so gentle in criticism and with true concern as they are enthusiastic with the possibilities for the future. I think this is part and parcel what makes the low-carb community something so incredibly special (that’s you!).
1. You have gained, lost, gained and are now losing. Are you really someone with credibility?
A writer called into question my regaining, but might not have known that originally I used Atkins as a crash diet in 2004. I’ve very publicly stated that crash diets don’t work, and I was living proof of that. I gained the weight back, and rightfully so. I preached the word to others to not do it. Frankly, I’m just glad to have the chance to start over and do this the right way. I believe, with this, God has blessed me, and now I have readers, friends, and confidantes I never had before. I don’t think this is coincidence. I think that in my choices to make the right decisions and to do this for my kids and not for myself, I am also being given a very important and precious gift with the amazing things that have been happening. You don’t squander a gift. Maybe I was finally ready to bear this burden. I do know that had I hit my goal in 2004 I would have been a sorry, adult onset anorexic at only 500 calories a day leading people into the same abyss. I would have been that Kimmer, running a crash diet and taking people down with me into the abyss (and no I’m not being melodramatic. My swooning couch is at the cleaners).
2. To some, you might seem a little bit flighty and without direction.
The tough thing about losing weight while blogging (and not lying about it) is that when you are honest (which I am) and you’re talking to folks in a very conversational way (which I do) on a blog and on a message board, you’re going to let them know what you’re doing most steps of the journey (which I do do).
I do that. It is very informal in that way and in those formats. I try to keep this blog very conversational, kind of the Daily Diary of a Chunky Monkey as it were.
Now, some might say this a sign of weakness. I can see the viewpoint if I was to use this style in a column, but I don’t see this as a weakness on this blog. I’ll explain why. Much of America is ME. Fat and happy. We try, we wonder, we opine along the way. We eat out. We want pizza. We’re all a bunch of borgtwins. I opine verbally, and in so doing, show anyone that they can achieve success even with those doubts, desires to be comfortable, and lack of time. Sure, along the way, there was a month-long rough patch, but who doesn’t have those? I truly feel that my honesty is another thing which makes folks say, “WOW! I see she has trouble too. She’s not a perfect schmerfect high and mighty. She’s like me.”
To me, the humility along with the success and the honesty is what makes this blog (not the column) what it is (along with the tremendous people who have supported me in the endeavor to ‘keep it real’).
3. ‘Keeping it real’ is one thing, but come on. This is a national column we’re talking about.
Quite true! Some might be concerned that my extremely conversational style of my personal blog (this one) will bleed over to the ‘professional’ column and tarnish the view of low-carbers as folks who joke about nipples and declare that scales have foreign accents.
I understand the concern; after all, the Examiner column is still too new for anyone to anticipate what will be there. The column is informational, with humor thrown in. It is mostly pure resource. What does a body eat on induction? What ratios are people shooting for? What are the plans available to low-carbers, gluten-intolerant, etc? What restaurants cater to low-carbers? What recipes can help people in their quest for fitness?
4. Can we count on you to be a good example of what low-carb living can do?
As most of you know, I have lost 70 pounds healthfully since January and am going to do my best to healthfully hit goal next year (2009).
The recipes, the cooking, the exercise, the accountability through writing and providing information and paying it forward are all signs (to me, and of my maturity in this lifestyle) that I am doing this for the last time. My kids are also depending on me, and, to me, that’s very important.
Now, many folks lose the weight and then write the book, the column, etc. They’re not under scrutiny because they’re there. I have the dubious distinction of being a work in progress and have been alerted on more than one occasion that all eyes are on me. To be honest, at first I was surprised. I didn’t think people were even reading. Then it finally hit me that there are A LOT of people reading. I had a real wake-up moment. I also didn’t realize some people were emulating me. That was the second shocking epiphany. I’m unassuming and feel pretty average, so to think that anyone might be really paying attention is incredibly humbling. This has been very surreal, and I’ve been quickly adapting and changing as a result.
I have Kimkins folks watching me to see whether or not Atkins works as well while being safer and more tasty. Some are crossing over because some are saying I’m the anti-Kimmer. Now I’m trying not to let those folks down either, and am appreciative that they are paying me that compliment.
I am under a lot of watchful eyes these days, something I wasn’t under in the early days of my blogging and posting. I’m evolving and adapting in a positive way as a result.
5. You changed plans on us in April. This makes you seem a little bit flaky.
On to another point: A friend sees potential weakness in my plan-changing from Atkins to Dr. Thompson. I can see that to an extent, but have we all always followed Atkins (or any none plan)? Maybe, but the chances are, you followed Sugar Busters for awhile. Or you tried the South Beach Diet. Or Weight Watchers. I followed Glycemic Load for awhile. It’s what people do occasionally. We try other things.
I think, if anything, trying a new plan gives us a point of reference. You’re no less credible for having gone to one plan and come back. My two-week Thompson trial was really no different. As soon as I realized it wasn’t for me, I immediately switched back because I wasn’t going to waste any more time with something that wasn’t strict enough for me when I needed a rigid plan.
I feel blessed because I was able to explain a new, healthy, viable way of eating. It might have seemed flaky, but we’re all allowed one flake… if it’s low-carb. Again, I think this also lends to the realism of life. We
all try something else occasionally. To me, honest dialog helps others to have that similar dialog with themselves as well. “Is this working for me?” “Am I tweaking this plan for me?” “Am I being honest on this plan?”
The change was a life lesson for me, and I’d like to think I have helped others have this same self-survey. Those road checks along the way should be performed, regardless of plan. It is too easy to become complacent and even start to bathe in low-carb salad dressings.
And, as I’m not discussing my day to day anywhere but here with you, the column remains free from discussing diurnal changes in weight fluctuations with scales that speak like Quebecoise and have hairy nipples.
6. Your style is fine, but it is too informal and ADD for a column.
It is true that some see my personality on this blog and on the boards as too flighty, and others see it as entertaining, informative and empowering. It really is perspective (and no one person’s is right or wrong), but I knew that at some point I’d have to stop playing around and start giving information and producing some viable, concrete aid to people in the form of success and information.
The column is the column, and not this blog. If you’ve read my Denver blog, you’ll see that’s slightly more formal, as opposed to me picking my toe lint here. I have a different style, tone and discussion topic for every resource. When Parents Canada comes out with their Back to School Issue in late summer, you’ll see that style emerging as well.
All are very different, but hopefully informative in their own way and with their own merits.
7. Anything else, as you’re talking to yourself now?
I saw half of you yawn and possibly snack. The rest of you are playing Sudoku.
Keep the faith in me, keep me in your prayers, and know that I’m going to do right by you.
This is how I am paying it forward. I’m a mom. I’m a fat girl, and I’m America. And, shoot. I’m getting healthier in the process by following a healthful way of life in a positive way that others actually can emulate. It’s a win-win.
Yes, based on this blog (which is purely conversational and fun) and my posts on boards (which is just dialog back and forth) while it might seem I need to reign it in, I already have been, in spades, and where it matters. The column is a column, and is my ‘be serious and help people spot’. I treat it differently than this blog. Both will be informative and hopefully interesting to read, but I in no way confuse the two.
So subscribe to both and let’s send a message!
I know when it’s time to git r done. Long story short: I’m good to go.
BTW, there’s a guy who’s a weight loss examiner I adore in Denver who is using Weight Watchers. I plan to convert him with my future amazing losses and pictures of food. Bwahahaha! I’m coming for you, Bill!
(Sorry this is so long!)
To all of you with concerns, skepticism and trepidations, please know I appreciate so much that you care, both about me and the low-carb community: about me, enough to want me to succeed in both health and success on behalf of all of us, and about the low-carb community that you would ask that the gift of being in this position is one not squandered but steadfast and informational–and, above all, positive.
Doing well helps to a point. Being well helps to a point. But doing for others is the point of what I do and why I do it.